Dating apps suck. You know it, we all know it. Today, we’re gonna talk about why they do—and what that has to do with making big life decisions. 

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About 8 years ago, I first stepped on the American Ninja Warrior course. An obsession was born, one that lasted until a bad knee injury (and, let’s be honest, becoming more than twice as old as the most successful competitors) took me out of competition.

Getting into ninja warrior was one of the scariest things I’ve ever done. The sport pits you against obstacles that are three times your size, suspended sixteen feet above a shallow pool that’s the only safety net you have.

It was risky as heck.

And it changed my life.

After I lost my 20-year-old cat, Max, a friend of mine—someone who cares deeply for me, despite how callous this next line might sound—said,

This is why I never want pets. Getting a pet always means you’re automatically signing up for grief.

In this week’s post, I explore that line—why it makes sense, why we’re so averse to loss.

And why that leads to worse decisions

I spent so many years thinking I was the problem, thinking that struggling to make decisions was because there was something wrong with me. I was wrong...